"Wow, you sure have your hands full!"
I typically just ignore whoever says it, because I HATE that comment! If it's a nice old lady, I might give her a big friendly smile. If it's a rude jerk, I might say, "Wow, I've never heard that before!" But most of the time, I just pretend I didn't hear them. Yes, I have my hands full. Is that wrong? And is that the most creative thing you can think of? And could you kindly stop communicating the message to my kids that they are a burden, whether that's what you are trying to say or not? Just because you are stating an obvious fact does not make it okay to say (again and again and again and again). Do you really think you are the first person to say that?
Imagine me commenting to random strangers:
- Wow, you sure look lonely! (to the single)- Wow, it must be horrible not being able to walk/see! (to the disabled)
- Wow, your family sure is small!
- Wow, you sure look old/young/haggard/fat/tired/etc.- Wow, you sure are covered in tattoos!
- Wow, are you really going to eat the junk you just loaded into your cart?
- Wow, you sure are wearing an interesting outfit today.
I could go on. Remember, there is a time and a place to voice whatever your opinion is, such as "I think birth control is stupid and wrong," or, on the contrary, "the planet is overpopulated and people should stop breeding." You are fully entitled to your opinion. But you will not find me personally confronting individuals I encounter at the store about their choices. That's just common courtesy. Now if it's something grossly inappropriate and reprobate, such as a big burly guy in a flouncy summer dress, you may overhear me telling my kids to stay far away from you and not look your way, but I don't think we fall into that category, so please resist the urge to add to the thousands who have said, "Wow, you sure have your hands full!" So, what is your favorite response to this stupid remark?Thoughtfully written instead of doing chores byZsuzsannaat11:42 AM
View the Original article
